It’s no secret that I love personality frameworks. I’ve been spending lots of time this year trying to learn more about the many different frameworks and how they can be helpful in day-to-day life. Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the enneagram, a system I first learned about in college and haven’t thought about much since.
I read “The Road Back to You: Am Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery” by Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile back in March, and just recently discovered their podcast series that accompanies the book. If you’re interested in the enneagram, I recommend both. But today I want to share a question from the podcast I heard over a month ago that I can’t stop thinking about.
In episode three, Suzanne welcomes a guest to the show by asking,
I was driving home from work while listening, and I was so struck by the question I said out loud, “Wow! What a great question!” (I admit that I do talk back to podcasts and audiobooks.) Ever since then, I’ve found myself thinking about this question often. Whenever I do something especially fun or different, I think “I would talk about this as one of my last three things.”
Why do I love this question so much? Other than the fact that I love a numbered list, I find it great because:
It’s unique and interesting.
The answer to this question is a springboard to conversation in a way that “How are you?” or “What’s new?” are not. Most of the time people are fine and not much is new, but everyone could name three things they’ve done that they love.
It gives a lot of freedom to the person answering the question.
It doesn’t give a time frame, so if the last three things you did that you loved happened an hour ago, last week, or last year, it doesn’t matter. You get to choose.
It also allows the question answerer to be as deep or lighthearted as they’d like. If they want to share something personal, they can. If they would rather not, they can share something more general like a meal they enjoyed or a movie they saw. No one gets put on the spot in an uncomfortable way.
It sets the tone for positivity.
This is the reason I love this question most of all. I know that one of my flaws as a person is that I can be melancholy and fall prey to perfectionism. I wouldn’t necessarily call myself an optimist. This question is energizing, and gets you thinking about what’s great in life. Thinking about the last three things I’ve done that I love brings me a huge happiness boost, and puts me in a positive frame of mind. I hope it does the same for you.
To end, I’ll share the last three things I’ve done that I love:
- I went on a run with my dog around the neighborhood, and noticed several trees starting to turn from green to blazing red, yellow and orange.
- I finished another enneagram book that was easy to understand and insightful, and I can’t wait to share more about it later.
- I had lunch with my parents, and heard good news that my grandma just found her wedding ring she lost earlier this year. It was at the bottom of a seven pound bag of brown sugar!
Question: What are the last three things you did that you loved?